I want to be that mother who can stand up and say I am a strong confident mother and I know what is best for my children. We breastfeed and co sleep, We listen, We include, We eat chocolate and snot smoothies, we trampoline and grow frogs, we sling, we carry and we try and understand and work with our children without resorting to punishments, threats or coercion.

Tuesday, 2 July 2019

Moving On

I used to end my blogs with:-

Meltdowns -
Losing the plot -
Breastfeeding -

I haven't done it for ages, partly because I haven't been able to properly write for a few years now but also, I'm no longer breastfeeding. Times have moved on, the girls are older but their basic needs and wants havent changed.  I just can't fix everything so easily with my amazing boobs!!

Meltdowns are pretty much a normal every day occurrence now with 3 kids, a busy life and not everyone's needs and wants always being met. With eldest's diagnosis of Aspergers those earlier meltdowns make much more sense and I am thankful for reading The Continuum Concept by Jean Leidloff as my starter book for understanding my baby's needs and wants. 

I am grateful for all the other gentle parenting books and techniques and advice from like minded friends for allowing my children to express and emote and have the freedom to do so without fear of threats, punishment or negative discipline. For helping me understand that meltdowns are a communication and it's up to me as their mother to figure out what is being melted over me!! Sometimes I'm able to sort it and sometimes I'm not and that's also ok! 

Losing the Plot: I'm much more accepting and way more able to justify and so am slightly less guilty about my plot losings!! They still occur, of course, but come on, I deserve a break don't I?!! Anyway as a mum of 3 lovely kids, I think I lost my plot a long time ago!!! 

Breastfeeding: After almost 4500 days of constant (often hourly and sometimes continuously for hours) breastfeeding, my boobs are now mine again. I'm quite happy for my hubby to enjoy them again too!! 𝩀  I don't feel like my boobs have had enough touching, sucking, pawing and exposing or if you even look at my boobs Mr Hubby, you'll be for it. They did feel like that sometimes, especially when I was tandem feeding. 

No longer are they pretty much solely for the nourishment and development of my babies. I miss how breastfeeding calmed down pretty much any situation and I love knowing that they had healthy in their bodies for at least 3yrs (two of them 5yrs) before they began to fill them with the not so healthy they have now. Breastfeeding wasn't always kisses and rainbows, there's been difficulties days and dark days and guilty days and sore days and OMFG I can't do this anymore days but they were always comforting days for my kids. I will miss breastfeeding. 

Meltdowns - ketchup related
Losing the Plot - ketchup related
Breastfeeding - almost a distant memory, but I'll never really forget and the girls will carry the effects forever

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