I want to be that mother who can stand up and say I am a strong confident mother and I know what is best for my children. We breastfeed and co sleep, We listen, We include, We eat chocolate and snot smoothies, we trampoline and grow frogs, we sling, we carry and we try and understand and work with our children without resorting to punishments, threats or coercion.

Thursday, 26 January 2012

Wednesday, 18 January 2012

This time of Night

It gets to this time of night, the kids have been asleep for a few hours, they've eaten at least some form of nutrition today, they probably will sleep through tonight, husband has gone to bed, I've watched a few things on the box, the house is a moderate mess, pain is at moderate level and I start to wonder how the hell I got through another day and how am I going to get through another one tomorrow and how the hell am I going to do it with another little one.

Its just the small stuff really at this time of night

Meltdowns - abound
Losing the Plot - difficult with sick girlies
Breastfeeding - thinking a lot about restarting

Tuesday, 17 January 2012

Should a woman in labour

Should a woman in labour trump everyone else's needs in the room?

In order for a birth to progress and flourish, a woman has to feel safe and secure and at complete ease with herself and the people around her. She should feel able to go completely within herself and trust the people around her to acquiesce to her needs for her surroundings, environment and body to be as she requires it to be.

A woman in labour should have her needs heard.

She should trust that the people in the room understand their roles and have the knowledge and skill base to fulfil them. She should feel comfortable knowing that whoever is with her for her birth will know what to do and be able to carry out their roles in accordance with their ability and she should be able trust and believe that they will have the strength, wisdom, compassion and understanding to know what that is.

By saying a woman in labour trumps everyone else's needs in the room, this is what I mean.

Its a big ask but it really shouldn't be.