The holidays are here the holidays are here

 It is the last day of school and Ellie is refusing to go and I have neither the heart nor the energy to force her. You may all remember the difficulties we had at the start of the school year, so if we did  rewards and punishments, I guess this is her reward for continuing to go throughout the year!!!

 SO......first day of the school holidays. If all else fails, the sink is shiny 

It's been quite a while since I have posted and I kind of regret that. Having another addition to our crazy days has provided me with plenty to talk about but it's also a massive adjustment and blog posting wasn't something I felt could manage. So now I want to try and do one as often as possible.  

Millie is now 3months old and as babies tend to be, an absolute delight!!  I'm not going to lie to you. It's been hard going. First two weeks she wouldn't feed. We had to use an SNS system. We didn't know what was wrong. We were feeding every 3hrs. I was pumping to keep supply up every 2hrs. Feeding with the drip took 2hrs. We were in a haze a daze and absolute hell. The midwife was blaming Elimination Communication.  I was feeling like a first time mother and was starting to understand why women turn to formula. If it hadn't been for the support of the amazing women in my CC group, I would have been an absolute wreck instead of just a slight wreck!!



We eventually figured out she had tongue tie and thanks to the amazing lactation team at Yorkhill hospital , Millie's snip took place a few days later. If it hadn't been for her developing her first cold, it would have been the same day!!   Which brought our next newborn problem. Snot. So. Much. Snot. For 10weeks poor Millie had a blocked nose and tremendous amounts of mucous meaning she had difficulty breathing whilst feeding and lying down.   So now she not only had to relearn feeding, she had to do it whilst not being able to breathe.  It also meant she would not lie down unless fully asleep. So whilst we definitely advocate holding our baby as much as possible. It was virtually impossible to put her down. Now with two other toddlers needing me 25/7 this was rather hard to say the least!!  So whilst Millie definitely has her continuum needs to be held met, I was losing my mind!! Then last week she had her second osteopathic treatment and I started drinking echinacea tea.   Since then we have had moments of at least 20mins where she will sit upright and be quite content!!! Its a whole new world!!  

So as you can imagine the last three months have been far from ideal and it's taken its toll on the girls. Tension is high. Stress is palpable.  Fights are common place.   Meltdowns are constant. Anger. Upset. Shouting. Name calling have all been commonplace. My patience has been non existent which hasn't helped. Ellie and I have been fighting constantly too. It's a holy mess.  The girls have, through necessity, become quite self sufficient and whilst that in itself is not a bad thing, it feels like they have also stopped listening to me as a reliable leader.   They do what they want. When they want. It's all gone slightly Lord of the Flies around here!! 

I tried instigating a sister circle (form of micro-circle). It worked really well for a week or so but has been harder and harder to implement. I'd like for this to start working again.  I am trying to remain calm and not turn into shouty mummy but I do feel my buttons are really being pushed. They are much less receptive to my suggestions and requests and it seems like the only way they listen or respond now is if I am really loud insistent and firm and the way I totally don't want to be.

Omg being a parent to 3 strong willed children is really really hard.

So it's the summer holidays and we are together for six weeks. Let's see if we can turn things around!

Meltdowns: a plenty
Losing the plot: too many times to count
Breastfeeding: on demand


Update:  it's midday. Millie won't stop crying or go in the sling.  The natives are getting restless. My stress levels are rising so I've retired to the bedroom to try and settle Millie whilst the girls have decided to have a bath

And breathe