Ok I think we need to formulate a care plan.
Yes yes let's do that but I'm not leaving Millie if she is upset
Well, I think you need to be the leader here. Look at all the other kids settled in. You may need to use a bit of tough love.
Ok. I'm not using any type of tough love, I parent a totally different way so I'm not using the other kids as a measure. I'm not prepared to leave her if she isn't ready as it will cause more problems in long term.
Millie, come and have ten seconds milk and then I'm going to go and walk the dog. Ok?
....milk...ok mummy you can go now. Bye.
She is always ok for me to leave if it's on her terms. I won't leave unless she is ok with it.
The pressure to abandon is immense.
It's when she says 'I wasn't ready for you to leave yet mummy' when I come back. 💔
I know some will think the use of the word abandon is ott....
I don't really think its abandonment btw, I know the staff are lovely. I know I'm not actually leaving her in a box on the street corner. It's Millie who feels it though, it's Millie that needs to get used to it and it's me that cops it! No coincidence her behaviour at home is radically different now to at nursery. And believe it or not I am not self sabotaging or projecting or unconsciously seeping my thoughts into her brain and manipulating her brain in some way. Oh would that I could!!
I actually would quite like a couple of hours.
But I have to admit that there gets a point where the effort to preserve Millie's future esteem can become...what's the word?....
The upping of connection need is intense.
Meltdowns - aaalll over the place from everyone must be changing seasons
Losing the Plot - made conscious effort to remain calm and not annoyed this evening. It worked well. Connection repaired.
Breastfeeding - milks sleeping. Resting. Having a break. Broken. Ok just ten seconds. What else will make you feel as much comfort and connection? Seriously you can't think of anything???