Articles supporting co-sleeping

ARTICLES SUPPORTING CO-SLEEPING

JAMES J. MCKENNA, Ph.D. Rev. Edmund P. Joyce, C.S.C Chair in Anthropology and Director, Mother-Baby Behavioral Sleep Laboratory

University of Notre Dam

1.     Why babies should never sleep alone: A review of the co-sleeping controversy in relation to SIDS, bedsharing and breast feeding James J. McKenna* and Thomas McDade 2005:

2.     Why we never ask ‘is it safe for infants to sleep alone’ Historical Origins of Scientific Bias in bedsharing SIDS/SUDI ‘Debate’ by James McKenna in the Academy of Breastfeeding Medicine and News 2001:

3.     In Defence of Maya’s Mother in Contempary Peadiatircs 2000:

4.     Maternal Sleep and Arousals during Bedsharing with Infants in American Sleep Disorders Association and Sleep Research Society 1997:

5.     Infant-Parent Co-Sleeping in an Evolutionary Perspective: Implications for Understanding Infant Sleep development and the Sudden Infant Death Syndrome in American Sleep Disorders Association and Sleep Research Society 1993

6.     RESEARCHING THE SUDDEN INFANT DEATH SYNDROME (SIDS) The Role of Ideology in Biomedical Science 1991

7.     Cosleeping and Biological Imperatives: Why Human Babies Do Not and Should Not Sleep Alone

Natural Child Project

1.     An Oversight of Our Culture

2.     Babies Need Their Mothers Beside Them

3.     Bedsharing Promotes Breastfeeding

4.     Bedtime Story: Co-sleeping Research

5.     The Con of Controlled Crying

6.     Cosleeping

7.     Cosleeping and Biological Imperatives: Why Human Babies Do Not and Should Not Sleep Alone

8.     Cosleeping Around The World

9.     Is It Time to Abolish Cribs?

10.  Is sleeping with my baby safe? Can it reduce the risk of SIDS?

11.  It's None of Their Business

12.  Need vs. Habit

13.  A Rediscovery

14.  Rethinking "Healthy" Infant Sleep

15.  Should My Baby be Sleeping Through the Night?

16.  Statement on sleeping locations and sudden death in infants

17.  Ten Reasons to Sleep Next to Your Child at Night

18.  When Will My Baby Soothe Himself to Sleep?

19.  Why babies should never sleep alone

20.  Why We Never Ask "Is it Safe for Infants to Sleep Alone?"

Mothering Magazine

1. Shouting For Baby
2. Real Men Sleep With Their Kids
3. Bed of Roses
4. Family Bed Safety
5. Where Oh Where Has Our Sex Life Gone
6. Breastfeeding & Bedsharing Still Useful (and Important) after All These Years
7. Where Should Babies Sleep at Night?: A Review of the Evidence from the CESDI SUDI Study
8. Solitary or Shared Sleep: What's Safe?
9. Sleep Environment Safety Checklist
10. How the Stats Really Stack Up: Cosleeping Is Twice As Safe
11. The Complexity of Parent-Child Cosleeping: Researching Cultural Beliefs
12. The New Zealand Experience: How Smoking Affects SIDS Rates
13. Bedsharing among Maoris: An Indigenous Tradition
14. Rooming-in at the Hospital: Assessing the Practical Considerations
15. Sleeping Like a Baby: How Bedsharing Soothes Infants
16. Not Designed to Sleep Alone
17. Bedsharing Research in Britian
18. The Family Bed: It's Safe and Here's Why
19. Three in a Bed
20. A Foot in Your Face, or Ten Other Reasons to Family Bed
21. Sleep with Me: A Trans-cultural Look at the Power--and Protection--of Sharing a Bed
22. A Maya Spiritual Bath That Heals a Child's Nightmares
23. Sleep, Beautiful, Sleep: You, too, Can Take a Nap
24. Pillow Talk: Helping your Child Get a Good Night's Sleep

Coming down

I am coming down.   That’s all I can explain it as.  I am coming down off the urgent feeling of impending disaster.  I am coming down from the intensity of anger that someone dare come into MY home and tell me how to raise my children without allowing me the opportunity to explain, due to fear.  I am coming down from the unbelievable shitty feeling that I don’t know how to parent.  Everyone’s support and responses have been heartening, I have a long way to go and I wish to G-d some of you lived near me but your words are all I can go on just now and they have reminded me of the most important thing…connection with my girls.  It feels like I have a lot of work to get it back and in the past week, , I have been taking things low key,  I have effectively given ‘control’ of things over to my husband because I have just been unable to ‘deal’ with any negative behaviour without feeling like I am going to explode or say something regretful.  He went back to work yesterday and I have been making such an incredible effort not to lose it and to try and connect with Ellie.  I admit it has been really hard and by about 4pm I am not in a great place L .  I feel like I am starting again everyday.  But I think bit by bit, we are making it work again, she is slowly trusting me again and pushing me less and less or maybe she is realising its not a good idea, not sure.  There is always the worry that it’s through fear of me ‘losing it’ but I am really trying hard to deal with things differently.  I KNOW she is doing it for a reaction and a connection, it’s just so hard.  Last night she was completely wild and sugar rush demented but I kept my cool, hubby was most impressed!  It’s such a disheartening feeling to feel like I have lost my connection with her just now.  Some days it feels pointless and I feel hopeless and like it’s a lost cause then I feel even more guilty and resolve to try harder.  Its so hard to know how much is normal 4yr old and it really breaks my heart to think that she is a product of me and through all my reading and knowing I have still managed to fuck up and go off course for a while.  I know it is all temporary.  I am doing the best I can. I just feel like I have to start again somehow.

Meltdowns - coming down
Losing the Plot - coming down
Breastfeeding - hahaha