Fireworks Night My 3 Girls Styleee

We went to our local display which is always fantastic.  One of the songs was Don't Stop Me Now by Queen, so with me trying to sing along, lets just say, this year was not so fantastic.....

excitement before it started

(try singing it out loud)

Tonight I'm gonna have myself a real good time

I feel alive and the world it's turning inside out Yeah!

I'm floating around in ecstasy

So don't stop me now don't stop me

'Cause I'm having a good time having a good time

I'm a shooting star mummeee mummeee leaping through the skies

Like a tiger defying the I'm thirsty laws of gravity

I'm a racing car passing by like Lady Godiva I want to go home

I'm gonna go go go

There's no stopping me mummeee mummeee mummeee

I'm burning through the sky yeah!

Two hundred degrees mummeee

That's why they  I'm thirsty call me Mister Fahrenheit

I'm trav'ling at the speed of light

I wanna I want to go home make a supersonic man out of you mummeee

Don't stop me now

I'm having such a good time

I'm having a ball I want to go home

Don't stop me now

If you wanna have a good time

Just give me a call mummeee 

Don't stop me now ('cause I'm having a good time)

Don't stop me now (yes I'm having a good time)

I don't want to stop at all... yeah!

I'm a rocket ship mummee mummee mummeee on my way to Mars

On a collision course

I am a satellite   I want to go home I'm out of control

I am a sex machine I'm thirsty ready to reload

Like an atom bomb mummeee about to

Oh oh oh oh oh explode

I'm burning I'm thirsty through the sky Yeah!

Two hundred degrees

That's why they call me Mister Fahrenheit

I'm trav'ling at the speed of light

I wanna make a supersonic woman of you  I want to go home

Don't stop me mummeee

Don't stop me I'm thirsty

Don't stop me I want to go home

Hey hey hey!

Don't stop me

Don't stop me

Ooh ooh ooh (I like it)

Don't stop me

Don't stop me

Have a good time, good time

Don't stop me

Don't stop me

Ooh ooh alright mummeee mummeee

Ooh I'm burning through the sky yeah!

Two hundred degrees

That's why they call me Mister Fahrenheit

I'm trav'ling at the speed of light

I wanna make a supersonic man out of you

Don't stop me now mummeee mummeee

I'm having such a good time I'm thirsty

I'm having a ball

Don't stop me now I want to go home I want to go home I want to go home I'm thirsty I'm thirsty

If you  I'm thirsty wanna have a mummeee mummeee mummeee  good time

Just give me a call

Don't stop me now ('cause I'm having a good time) I'm thirsty 

Don't stop me now (yes I'm having a good time) mummeeee

I don't wanna stop at all I want to go home

La la la la laaaa

La la la la

La la laa laa laa laaa

La la laa la la la la la laaa hey!!....

sparklers at home afterwards with no moaning

Millie not sure about it all

You see, the thing I didn't mention was...

You see, the thing that I haven't mentioned is that I shouted too. I was very angry and outraged that some random shopkeeper would shout at my girls and was even angrier that he was not even feeling the slightest remorse, in fact he felt he HAD to.  When I called him up later to let him know, he all but said they deserved to be bawled at from half way across the shop.  I mean how else are they going to learn that being loud is sometimes unacceptable??!!! I know he was stressed and busy...but hell aren't we all at times, it doesn't mean the kids should cop it. "Children reflect the treatment they receive"

I've been focusing too much on the guilt of me doing it too(again)(and in public), of humiliating them and me. So much was I focussing on the negative, which I have a dreadful tendency to do, I was forgetting that I got everyone up and out the door without any shouting, coercing and nagging.  It was an easier morning because the girls weren't at school today due to late night ear pain and awakenings and sore noses from picking so G-damn bloody much.  I digress.  We first took the dog for a walk, fresh air a must when not feeling great, then we went to the hairdressers because Ellie an unexpected burst of enthusiasm about hair cutting (in other words, she didn't change her mind, again) and then to the dreaded deli, after consuming chocolate and potato scones. In hindsight, I see now it was the end of a long day of high stimulation. They were hungry. I was tired and under pressure. I was having a ridiculous conversation with the woman behind the counter who was being quite unhelpful and obstructive especially given my lack of cooking and storing of frozen foods knowledge.

I should have stopped. Taken a breath. Taken them outside and calmly explained that they could not run round the shop and they needed to stop making so much noise. I should have removed them from the situation. Told them they had to stay outside or go back in the car but that they could not come back inside the shop at that moment.

What annoys me most is that the majority of people think its normal and ok to shout at children and feel justified in doing so. Most people feel no remorse for their behaviour or even consider apologising for shouting and being mean unnecessarily. I do think it was. Unnecessary. 

Most people that I have spoken too, have a memory of being shouted at by someone other than parents and their lingering memory is fear and upset.  How can that be positive?

Meltdowns - hardly any

Losing the Plot - a big ole public one..oh the shame...

Breastfeeding - still going strong.  I'd have loved to have seen the reaction had I needed to do it in that shop!