tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-530508568412135158.post4774703804911541703..comments2023-03-25T12:19:58.138+00:00Comments on Diary of an unconscious mother: Just another day in ParadiseDiary Of An Unconscious Motherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13319418516678161786noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-530508568412135158.post-34635224606838184112013-06-01T01:04:49.559+01:002013-06-01T01:04:49.559+01:00Hugs to you! What lucky children you have. Its a p...Hugs to you! What lucky children you have. Its a pity more professionals don't have the same respect for you as you have for your children.<br /><br />I had a similar conversation with a well-meaning headmistress re rewards/treats. My youngest has dyslexia and after some sessions with a brilliant paed chiropracter, he started moving up reading groups. Conversation went: XXX is doing so well, have you given him a reward? me: 'Whatdo you mean? her: Well, does he like video games you could get him a video game. Me: actually he is so proud of himself, I dont want to devalue him by 'rewarding' him. besides, he makes an effort whether he is rewarded or not - its unfair to give him the impression that he is approved and acknowledged only when he gets results that please me. Im not sure she got it at all. Then when he started refusing school, a psychologist advised 'tough love . Again I put on my blank/dumb face and asked, so how does that look when my kid is curled up having a panic attack? (brought on by teacher cruelty eg asking her to please read the questions in a test as he couldnt read the whiteboard - he has Erlins syndrome,which is a light sensitivity made worse by flourescent lights and on a white board, the white is prominent/print 'recedes. This teacher refused to help saying 'that will disrupt the other kids' resulting in 'other kids' calling him a retard and him worrying that he had failed the test).<br />Psych then said, have you ever had to do controlled crying? Umm , no. WE are going through that with our baby at the moment. I forgot my dumb face and lost my shit - " you fucking aren't!?!!. Have you not read the research about the impacts on infant mental health? <br />On my way home I started to giggle - I had a lightbulb moment - now he probably thinks the reason my kid is refusing school is because I have NEVER had any boundaries. <br /><br />Its tough advocating for our children when we are taking a gentle path - hang in there mama, you have lucky kids - by highschool your now 6 year old will shit all over the poor kids who have had the stuffing knocked out of them. BTW - dont they have drinking taps at school where kids can get water? Pinkyhttp://www.pinkymckay.comnoreply@blogger.com